I need to vent about something. I know my small personal situation is insignificant when it comes to the burdens the entire world has to deal with... but it's weighing heavy on my heart today and blogging is therapeutic so I'm sharing my thoughts.
Let me start by asking:
Is your calendar full of activities with friends? How did you meet your friends? How many friends do you have?
Well, I have none. This is not supposed to be a pity party, this is a fact. I don't even really have many friends in the "blogosphere". This is not about a fog or depression I am experiencing, I am not seeking a diagnosis. I have a very supportive husband, a pretty rad mom, and long distance friends in my hometown but I don't have any friends near by and I'm starting to feel pretty rotten about it.
Making friends as a semi-introverted adult is hard, I struggle with social anxiety at times and really just hate being "new" to a crowd. I know it's my insecurities getting in the way and once I get to know someone I think I make a great friend but putting myself on the line in the beginning, now that I am a little older, is hard. I can't be the only one feeling like an outcast in this "grown up" world we live in, can I?
I recently noticed that I just don't "click" with others like I used to... Making friends used to be second nature to me; a smile, a friendly hello, and some chit chat and a new friend was made... I moved a lot as a kid and after the initial adjustment I was always able to find a really great friend and we stuck together. I moved to Florida years ago and it's like moving here broke my ability to make a friend. Now I feel like I'm alone most of the time, not really sure how to randomly reach out to another person, and be like "Hey, you're cool. You should be my friend" without feeling like a complete idiot and making the person uncomfortable, because who does that?! I don't want to "force" someone to be my friend so over the past few years I've just gotten used to it... but lately, I crave a real, true friend.
I know lots of people are busy, we're all just trying to get by. I don't expect a friend to drop everything all the time to "be there"... I just wish I had someone to rely on every once in a while to go grab a drink with... or to spend some time at the beach... or even just to sit on the couch with a pint of ice cream and watch movies. I want a friend that wants to be my friend and until I moved to Florida, I didn't think I would ever have trouble finding that.
Maybe it's the fact that I'm a truly awkward person; I try not to be, but it happens. Maybe it's because I'm a little overweight and that makes people uncomfortable. Maybe it's because I come off as rude because I'm a little less chatty when I first meet someone (I promise, I'm just shy). Maybe everyone in Florida already has enough friends. Maybe I'm not Floridian enough. Maybe I come across as a weirdo. Am I walking around with a "loser" sign on my back? Is my insecurity costing me friendships? I have no idea. I'm not really sure what's happening... After a day contemplating the issue, I'm starting to think maybe it's just WHO I am, maybe people don't like me.
Am I a negative person? Somewhat. I'll be working on that for my benefit, but maybe it will help me make a friend.
Do I avoid social situations? Yes, I have social anxiety... but if you invite me somewhere from now on I will make an effort to attend.
Do I offend people? I try not to, but maybe that's the issue. Maybe I appear guarded because I'm constantly worried about offending. I'll be working on this too.
I kind of feel like I'm singing the infamous "nobody likes me, everybody hates me, I'm gonna eat some worms" kiddy song.I suppose I could go on and on with my inability to make friends, but then that would be a complete pity party and no one likes that so I'll stop here. I know this post is a bit dramatic, I apologize for that... I just so badly needed to vent.
So I have to ask, am I the only one feeling friend-less as an adult?
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Welcome to the Too Cool For School Giveaway Hop hosted by Blogger PR
August 18 - 24, 2014
We all know going shopping is part of the "Back to School" tradition,
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As a college student & a future teacher, back to school time is full of delight (and currently a little dread, eeeeeek for having to take public speaking this semester)! I love snagging deals on back to school items and using my rewards cards at certain stores to earn bonuses. I also love having a cute place to keep all of my belongings in, thanks to Lavishy Boutique I was able to rock back to school shopping this year with an adorable wallet in hand and one other lucky lady will be stylin' while spending the dough with a bohemian Nina embroidered wallet from Lavishy!
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